What I Learned About Men When I Was A Dancer

You read it right.  It is exactly what you are thinking.  I believe I've mentioned before, I have a lot of stories and an interesting past.  Now I work in the legal field and as an advocate.  However, there was a time in my life when I wanted a good income but did not have  an education.  Full disclosure, this is still one of my favorite work experience so please don't judge me just yet.  I will explain everything!  I chose to do this article because honestly, it's the most engaging.  This is the stuff all women are curious about and I do have some insight into the male perspective now that I would like to bestow upon the internet ladies.  

First of all, I am a classically trained dancer, a certified yoga teacher and I love to be naked, lol.  Now I do so in the privacy of my own home of course but there was a time when these three qualities made me a very successful dancer.  Note, I said dancer.  While I did see a lot of prostitution, I limited my experience to just the stage and the table dances.  Yes ladies, VIP means something unsavory might go down.  Strip clubs have a culture all to themself.  But stick around because every woman can benefit from what I learned and it for a good discussion.    

You never need to worry about your bodies imperfections or extra weight again!  Men are curious.  They want to see every woman they cross paths with naked.  The lady at the bank, the older silver fox, the thick girl with a great personality, they literally can not separate themselves from having these thoughts.  I think it's part of their evolution.  This does not make them disgusting, it means they are normal healthy men.  Your man is never going to stop wondering about other women but he also realizes this is fantasizing and not something he entertains in reality.  You don't need to be jealous of the little things.  If he's a cheater there will be plenty of huge red flags.  Ignore the small stuff or maybe you need to stop ignoring the obvious signs.  Either way, how he treats you is what really matters.  

If you are with someone who is worried about the 5 extra pounds you gained, walk away.  You deserve better and better is out there.  The type of man who only goes for the 10 is the worst customer in the club in my opinion.  He definitely only cares about appearances and is most likely a misogynist.  The men who want this type of women really want to go to bed with every beautiful women they meet and will probably try to do so.  These types think of you as an accessory and a play thing.  They come in the club, get flashy with their money and chose only women who could be in playboy because that is exactly what they are.  They are playboys and they mess around.  If he seems like a playboy, it's because he is.  Unless your goal is to be a trophy wife, look elseward.  Also Ladies, if you get a creepy vibe do not ignore it please.  Our instincts are better pickers than our brains.  There are men in the world with addictions and unhealthy desires.  If you think he's a little bit off its because HE IS.  Keep this in mind when dating.  

For the most part, men do not visit these clubs on a regular basis or have addictions so calm down.  It's a once in a lifetime experience for a lot of men and they are just completely curious about every type of woman in the room.  That's the allure of the industry, getting a variety of visual stimuli that they otherwise would never experience.  This is probably the average man's incentive for going to a strip club.  

Men are drawn to a lack of sexual inhibition and confidence more than anything else. All shapes, all sizes are welcome as long as she knows she's sexy.  We are all capable of this type of attraction.  I saw hundreds of different shaped women and had a few weight swings myself.  Body type made no difference what so ever.  Long legs, short legs, big legs, large breast, no breast, they want to see it all.  What really matters is how comfortable you are in your own skin.  It's very helpful these women have lingerie.  As cute as you are in your cotton panties and pajamas, something just for the bedroom is always a big hit.  I think a lot of us don't purchase these items because we are worried about how we look.  Men just see something more fun to take off your body.  Chances are your cellulite is the last thing he is going to notice if your draped in something sexy.  The additional perk of lingerie is that you get to be someone new for a moment.  Wearing fun outfits typically gets a woman to tap in to her sexy side,  You literally can't lose with giving this a try,  

As far as looks go, there is someone for everybody.  Whether you realize it or not, most men prefer the girl next door.  Someone like themselves.  Someone kind who listens to them and blushes.  The fantasy is nice but there are very few Miss USA strippers in the club.  Most are the types of women you see at the grocery store or gym.  There are big women who make a very good living in the strip clubs.  There are women who are older, I mean over 50 dancing in these clubs.  They hire a variety because they know some men prefer older women.  It's usually older men.  Do not assume that every man is looking for a young girl.  I danced until I was 32 years old and I was young compared to some dancers.  I worked at the most popular gentleman's club in a major city and all types of women worked there.  What a lot of men are really looking for is someone who can carry on a conversation.  There is a lot more talking that goes on in these places than the average person realizes.  Men who come often are looking for female friends.  Someone who isn't nagging them all the time.  Someone who laughs at their jokes and listens.  I made more money running my mouth than I did from my goodies.  

The moral of the story is you are way harder on your appearance than he is going to be.  This makes us  insecure when it comes to intimacy.  It is unnecessary to pick yourself apart or compare yourself to other women.  There is someone out there that prefers you just as you are. There are most likely many men out there that do.  There is also nothing to be ashamed of when your naked.  All naked women are beautiful.  Men want a real women.  It's a fantasy that any woman can tap into if she tries.  Next time you look in the mirror and pick apart your curves, remind yourself they are beautiful and a good man will just see you.